I hate when all the classes I want to take are at fucking 1:00
YES. I’m not the only one that thinks that!
Bisexual people struggle with several different things.
First and foremost, being sexually different than others. Just like all LGBQ peeps.
But then there is the ignorance….
People just don’t understand the concept.
Most people assume “oh you’re a slut, just can’t get enough, you’re not actually bi, attention seeking, going through a(the) phase (i went through a bi phase so you are too)”. This ignorance comes from both sides. The lesbian and gay side and the straight side. L & G people think oh you’re just on you’re way to being gay or oh you’re not actually gay. They think in a strictly bi polar way. It’s one way or the other. Same thing with straight people. So Bi’s aren’t accepted in either world. Which sucks.
If people don’t assume those things, they assume that bisexuality is and has to be 50/50. Wrong yet again. Here it is people….
Bi people (in my way of explaining/looking at things) are attracted to men and women (I’m not talking about pan, I’ll get to that in a min). Bi people are attracted to different things in each gender. They are like, ooh girls they have this and this and this and I like that and I assume this kind of role around them and then they’re like ooh men they have this this and this (different usually than women) and I assume this other role with them. I for example like to feel like the girl, the protected, the taken care of when in a relationship with a man. With a women I wanna be on more equal more mutual terms while sometimes assuming more of the dom role even. Total opposite. Bisexuality is physical and characteristical attraction to both genders in separate ways for each.
This is different than pansexuality, which is often defined more as gender blind. A pansexual looks for the same characteristics in people and not different characteristics based on gender. For example, they look for someone to be funny and dorky and it doesn’t matter if it comes from a man, woman, transgendered person, transsexual person, or gender queer person. Bisexual people tend to look for some different characteristics between men and women. (with possibly a few core characteristics remaining constant, such as good sense of humor, or smart). These characteristics are most likely to (but wont always) coincide with stereotypical gender roles.
K, so that is how we fix ignorance. We tell people what bisexuality is. It is not sluttyness. It is not a phase (necessarily, but it can be, bc sexuality is fluid). The point is, don’t invalidate someone’s sexuality unless you want someone to call you gay when you’re straight or straight when you’re gay or a man when you identify as a woman.
Bi people suffer from ignorance, misconceptions, being shunned from multiple parties (you cant make up your mind so screw you, kinda thing), from closed-mindedness, self conflict (am I 50/50? am I gay? for example I say I’m about 76/24 (lol) so sometimes when people invalidate or question my sexuality I wonder if I’m gay, but then I remember even if I couldn’t date a guy I still find them highly attractive both physically and characteristically), and disrespect (slut, whore, dumb, wishy washy, tease, shit like that).
Here’s what I think.
Let’s get of sexuality labels. Ha. Like that will ever happen. But seriously sometimes I tell people, “I’m sexual” not “I’m bisexual.”
First off, people can relate to being sexual (everyone is except asexual and demisexual people).
Think about it though. Some people like feet, hair, eyes, and boobs. Some people like butts, noses, teeth, abd knees. People don’t label their all of their fetishes and sexual pleasures (LIke… “I’m knee sexual” like wtf.) All I’m saying is that everyone likes different things in a sexual spectrum, so why focus so much on labels?
Because we need organization. Fuck the human brain, right? Ok, so… we can have labels, but lets not get so caught up on them. Ok so im bi and you dont get that…. but you like cutting yourself in sex. I don’t get that. So whatever. STFU. I mean seriously. Labels organize, but that’s only if they have a universal meaning. Because bisexual has eighty thousand different definitions, its not serving its purpose as a widely accepted functional label. (like cup for example. Everyone knows what a cup is). We either need to educate everyone as to what bisexuality is so everyone has the same conception (just like everyone thinks of a cup in basically the same way) or we need to stop trying to label shit that’s too broad and confusing to be labeled. Or at least stop worrying about it that much. Like, whatever.
That’s my rant. Peace.
whatever happens, I WILL be taking Human Sexuality :)